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To the Lighthouse by Virginia Woolf
Hello and welcome back to two guys one book. I'm Tim and I'm Brian and today we read or we are discussing To the lighthouse by Virginia Woolf written it was published in 1927. I think I think that's right. Yeah late 1920s. Mmm. So pretty old but consider to be a classic. Yeah. Time’s top 100 write novels or something. Hmm. What were your first impressions of the book? Well, I mean, I never read Virginia Woolf before and like we said it's considered a classic so reading it I didn't really I kind of well, I did read a little synopsis saying it's not really plot-driven. It's more about her writing and diving into the minds of her characters, but with that being said you want to do you want to give a synopsis of it? Before the impressions? Well, yeah. Well like I mean did I have any preconceived notions coming in starting this book? Not really. I just knew Virginia Woolf was a famous author , okay, but we'll do a quick pots. I mean, did you have any preconceived notions coming into this when I'm in first impressions as far how you thought overall?
Why'd you pick it? Why did I pick it? Yeah. Okay. So first of all, we haven't read that many female authors yet. You have picked any Brian. I've only picked one. Yeah, right and we’re only on like book eight. Yeah, that's true. It's this is an early early podcast and my - I'm preemptively showing people that were not sexist. I'm just kidding but. She seems like I mean, it's very famous book and she's a famous author. I thought it would be like Sylvia Plath a little bit. Have you read Sylvia Plath? I’ve read The Bell Jar and I like the fellows are Lively. Yeah. I have not that's her only book. Right? So you're panicking is her only book. Yeah. Yeah. She wrote a lot of poetry. There you go. But yeah, okay, so. Yeah, I guess just because it's like a classic country like a classic book. I don't know. I I I think that's a good choice for picking it because they're Classics for a reason but I also like reading them and then making up my own mind as well. Yeah. Yeah, I'm not going to be objective. Yeah, right. It's also like philosophical people's that was like yes, very philosophical book in a lot of ways. So we're both into that thought. That would be interesting. Okay, so quick summary. Yes, this will be hard because there's not much pot on the basic overview. Is that the main characters or so it starts with these two parents Mr. And mr. Ramsey and they have eight children and their at of house where they have some guests as well. And basically it's just a lot of dialogue between them and talking with the kids and some arguments and things like that eventually like they grow older. Mrs. Ramsay dies. Like two of the kids die one in world war one. So this is taking place partly in World War one and they talked about going to the lighthouse in the beginning and then eventually they go to a lighthouse that's honestly like a whole story more or less. I might I'm not officially go to the like, yeah, and there's a little more to it. But like right I mean, it's not it's it's in the Scottish Isles it takes place in the Hebrides off the coast of Scotland which are like an archipelago islands and it was like their vacation home. Not where they live permanently, where they would go to vacation and I think like the book is split up into three sections. The first one is just them at the vacation home wanting in the little boy James is wanting to go to the lighthouse but they can't because the weather is bad. And then they have dinner with everyone there and at their house there and then the second part is called time passes, which was short as a shorter part very eloquently written not so much in concrete details of what happens. She more elaborates. She has very nicely written prose about like an analogy to how time passes like. Different things or something and then in between there she says, oh Mrs. Ramsey dies. Oh Andrew dies and Prue dies. And then the third part is called to the lighthouse and whichever one comes back to that vacation house in Scotland and then James and cam, the Son and Daughter the youngest son and daughter, go with Mr. Ramsey on a sailboat to the lighthouse and then there's these other characters that aren't the Ramseys like Lucy Briscoe and was like a painter. Yeah or wannabe painter. I didn't sound like she was very good. She doesn't have to be good. But yeah. So yeah, there's a bunch of other ancillary characters in there, too, but. I think the whole reason this book is a classic is because it dives deep into the inner thoughts and feelings of the characters and I think at a time when maybe not many authors were doing that and it it was very interesting. Yeah, I think. If we consider it in the context of when it's written and that time period it's a little more remarkable maybe or groundbreaking. But to me the style felt kind of disorienting because it's hard to follow when everything is so like stream of conscious. Yes. That's a good way to explain it. Yeah, so I wish there was a little more plot. I wish it was a little more straightforward but. If you're prepared for that going in then it's a good reason she writes well like it's well written. Oh, absolutely. Yeah. Yes, her prose is very well done. And that it really I'm not an English major. So forgive me but like, she actually uses metaphors a lot like in describing time or thoughts like the waves on a Shore something and so maybe that's fitting that they're on an Island on the coast of Scotland and very very much a lot of water and Beach and nature kind of like metaphors to time passing or or emotions or other things like that. It's a lot of imagery and it's very like poetically written I would say but so many commas, like it’s hard to find when a sentence will end because like an entire page will just be comma comma comma right? Oh, it's it. It's. Yes, she's writing and then inserts as a phrase and another phrase with him that phrase about the previous phrase and just yeah, it is at times difficult to follow which makes made me at times just kind of skim and not really absorb. You know what she was saying or what she was trying to get across. I think English Majors would love this book because you can you can drill down and dissect these sentences and what she's getting at and what do these metaphors mean and and all of these things because she goes into Mrs. Ramsay and mr. Ramsay and their relationship and then James’ relationship with both his mother and his father and and just all kinds of stuff. You can really get into it pretty hardcore. But I also found that you can also see in this writing because we know Virginia Woolf drowned herself and was dealing with some sort of manic depression or something so you can. I'm sure that people can analyze those aspects of her writing as well. Yeah, there's a lot of angles that to look at this or different ways to see it. I think how did she kill herself? She walked she like she drowned herself like so like she like loaded her Pockets up with rocks and stuff and walk down in the ocean. pretty intense. that is intense that it's not the way I would do it. I'm not going to commit suicide. Okay. Well, but yeah. Yeah, it'll be it'll be over shortly run podcast final of the Season. Yeah, so I mean. This is one of those books where. Do you appreciate the book for how it's written or the story it tells or perhaps the characters or you like what? You know, like what is it about? I mean, this is I mean this is different for everybody and I think every book is different because you can like you can like book A because it's a good story and it kept her interest and it's a page-turner as they say, you know, like Dean Koontz, John Grisham, I think those guys are good at just turning out book after book with a good story that keeps readers interested and that's why they're so popular. I've never read either one of them really so I can't critique them. But maybe they're not, you know, they're not considered. Maybe John Grisham has some good quality books, but like Dean Koontz isn't considered an all-time great author, but he's a best-selling author. So like if you like book A because of his great story, that's great. If you like book B because it's you know, eloquently written by not a good story, you know, like so. like I used to I don't really have a particular book. I like, you know, I when I read a book, I neither know whether or not I like it, Do you have a particular way you Trend like when you're reading a book do you like a book? That's it has a lot of story and a lot of deep character development or do you like a book that is just well written and you can picture it in your mind? That's a good question. I think the more we've been reading books for this. I think characters are pretty important to me like the development of character and the arc the story arc and how it affects them how they grow and learn lessons along the way I think that's why what made this book little hard for me is because it doesn't really go that much in depth into the individual characters. It kind of jumps around a lot. Yeah, but the did you find any particular characters that. Like for me I felt like James was the most evolving character or maybe cam because they were the ones with their father in the third part of the book to the lighthouse when they're sailing to the lighthouse and we can she die, Virginia Woolf Dives deep and deeper into their thoughts and feelings about their relationship with their father, which I found interesting. If not, they weren't quite relatable to me because like Mr. Ramsey was very harsh father. He was not very loving he felt like I mean we'll get to it when we do our quotes, but he was like a philosopher something. He was a published author about philosophy. So he was more worried about how he will be remembered and that life is fleeting and So he kind of left his he didn't he didn't show overly he didn't he wasn't overflowing with emotions towards his children. And so then James at times had hatred towards them which I can't relate to personally because I personally like my dad but you know, I found it interesting how I'm I guess that was the biggest character development and maybe Lily Briscoe as well. Lily was the painter in the first part of the book who they thought she was going to marry somebody but she didn't and then she came back years later with Mr. Ramsey in the children after Mrs. Ramsey died. And then with Lily you get you see her grief over Mrs. Ramsey's death, which I found interesting to explore that and Virginnia Wolfe has some very elegant phrases in there. Dad was a good character because really yeah, I mean not a good. Let me clarify, the guy not a good person but a good character because he was more fleshed-out than a lot of them like the fact that he was this metaphysical philosophy Professor. So he's like highly esteemed and that Mrs. Ramsey like appreciates him and stuff. But like yeah some of the kids resent him and he's he has these like existential crises sort of throughout the book. And wondering how his legacy is going to live on and he needs that validation from like his wife and sort of the confidence to keep going. So I think he was a little more well-rounded as a character just more ways to look at him, right? So yeah, that's a good point. He was he was a more developed character than most in the book as well. Yeah. So what was your favorite part of the book the book? So one quick thing I'll say about the style since we're sort of catching on that sure is that I think as a book I enjoyed it more as an audiobook than reading it because it is so stream of conscious like the and Nicole Kidman narrated it so that was pretty cool. Okay. Yeah, she has a nice voice. Yeah, but just because the way it's red, it feels more like a it's like a dialogue in your head almost is how a lot of this is written. It feels like Virginia Woolf just like thinking things up and then and in the place of some of the characters she's thinking things from their perspective. And yeah, and I think taking it in context for the time in the 20s for female author to write about a wife's perspective of the relationship of and being a mother in Miss from Mrs. Ramsey's point of view in the first part of the book. I felt is was probably pretty revolutionary at the time. I can't imagine there were many female authors writing about being a wife and a mother to you know, yeah. Well, it's interesting because she's like has this reputation as a feminist author, but then Mrs. Ramsay as a character. It was basically like she's like, oh being a mother is the best thing a person can do. I mean like that's great. I took a hundred percent appreciate that but she seemed a little one-dimensional as a character. So interesting to me, I mean at least sort of in the beginning I think. Parts I like about her is that she would like stick up for her kids, I think and then also criticized them if they were being jerks to like other people. So she was like, I think she was a good mother but it's strange that you have this feminist author whose, you know celebrating that role of a mother so much right right, but I think. I took it as this way because there were there were some when I read some quotes here in a minute that maybe like you said, she's Virginia Woolf is supposedly a feminist I know icon, right? Maybe not maybe icon is too strong but of a feminist period but at times her writing does not come off like person of of a written by feminist. So I took it as may be viewing giving Virginia Woolf the benefit of the doubt and thinking about her personal issues and maybe she was down on herself. Her Depression was manifesting itself through her writing that you know, Women like at one point Mr. Ramsey says looking at Mrs. Ramsey. I wonder if she's understanding what she's reading. Probably not. And like little things like that and we're maybe Virginia Woolf is manifesting her negative views of herself through her writing, you know, which I that's just complete speculation, but made me at least give her Virginia, Virginia Woolf the benefit of the doubt because I know her personal issues. Yeah, I totally know it's possible. I think writing trying to think out of phrase this, writing a character like her husband who says things like that. Maybe that's her way of almost poking fun at the issue or just observing it in a way. Like I think she's a very observant person to the way she writes details in general. It's very like detail-oriented. So when she has characters say those sort of off the cuff not politically correct things. I wonder if it's for a reason like that. In my Kindle version. This is the first book I read on Kindle officially. Congratulations. Yes. Thank you. So I have all my notes that I highlighted here, which is awesome. But I'm not I'm not a hundred percent certain that I'll read everything on Kindle. But anyway and the Kindle version I have there's a quote at the end. They have a several quotes of by Virginia Woolf and one of them is. If you do not tell the truth about yourself, you cannot tell it about other people. So I like that quote and I feel like what we're talking about is touching on that. Maybe maybe you're right. Maybe she's telling the truth about herself, but also then, poking fun and telling like being kind of sarcastic or ironic in the way that Mr. Ramsey views his wife. Like all men just think women are are simple minded. Yeah, I feel like it's hard to know what an author's intentions are in general like yes, and I agree with that. It's like a lot of English seminars or just sort of theorizing and sometimes they actually are really confident that an author is trying to say this thing and it's like. Nobody really knows a hundred percent. I mean unless like in an interview her dad was like this is what I meant, but I don't know how many interviews there are for the record, right? And I think I think that's why English Majors love this book is because they can speculate till the cows come home. Yeah, and there is nobody that can really say otherwise, you know, and I think that's. I think that's what makes this book a considered a classic. I think that's perfectly fine. Do I think it's a classic? I don't know. I mean I liked it. But I mean. yeah, what was what would have made it a better book in your opinion? That's a good question. More action car chases. Yes. Yes, not enough shooting ice. There were no shootouts in this book. Now you can you believe that the like they should have rather light out. Oh, yeah. Well considering the last book I read with a lighthouse was annihilation. Remember that movie enough? Yeah, that's a very into it. Yeah. Okay. Yeah. But anyway, this was better than Annihilation any time, what would have made this book better for me? Good question. I don't there's not an easy answer to that because I think this book is just so vague in what happens. You know, there's no I mean a lot of it is kind of just talking about life and the meaning of existence and and you know the death of Mrs. Ramsey. Mr. Ramsey in the kids finally going to the lighthouse years later. It's just about Human Relationships, but. I think she could have done more. I don't know more about the relationships, but I guess that vagueness is part of the beauty is, you know her allegories or metaphors or whatever our kind of what draws people to it. Yeah, not so much me. Yeah, I mean, I know it's very well written don't get me wrong. I like the book. It was well written. But yeah, I'm just not one to, yeah, analyze the words. Yeah, I mean I was a little disappointed too. But I think other people have compared this to like Ulysses by James Joyce, you know, which is. And I haven't read it. But my understanding is that it's also told from like the perspectives of multiple characters and their points of view and that sort of style so maybe some parallels there. But yeah, it's just for this one. There just wasn't much of a story, not a lot of character development, just not allowed to keep me engaged I know is written in like the 20s and then it has these like it's well-written and good. Imagery whatever wasn't wasn't The Great Gatsby written in the 20s or 30s something like that. Yeah, probably the 30s didn't take place in the 20s. Yeah, the Roaring Twenties like I mean, that's a great book. Yeah, right. Yeah. I mean like that I think is universally liked that's what I was thinking like Tolstoy was written Mmm Yeah before this and like right kept my attention when I read like, you know some historians. All right, right. So I mean there. Yeah, I don't know. Maybe this is just the book for those that love the English language, you know and love analyzing every sentence and breaking it down and being able to subject-- whatever they want on the meaning behind the things I can't quite articulate what I'm trying to say. Either can Virginia Woolf. Yeah, that's good. Anyway, do you want one of the quotes because you can go ahead you have more quotes than me? Well, I mean, all right, so I'm gonna start with this because this is what I think the book is all about this one little quote. And this is this is the this is what I'm going to actually analyze the sentence. All right. So this is the quote that I have here. As if to be caught happy in a world of misery, was for an honest man, the most despicable of crimes. So let me break that down. As if to be caught happy in a world of misery, was for an honest man, the most despicable of crimes. So this world of misery I think is what Virginia Woolf is how Virginia Woolf views the world. and I think her being an honest man or woman is the highest virtue you can have in this world of misery. So but being honest, you can't be happy because if you're caught happy in a world of misery, you're not being honest. To be honest in the world misery is to recognize the world is crap. But if you're happy, then that constitutes as a crime and I feel like that can be an that can set the tone for this whole book because no one's really happy in this whole book. They ever at least the adults. Mr. Mrs. Ramsay some of the other adult characters view the world as the kind of a bleak and like unforgiving place. And mrs. Ramsay laments the fact that children have to grow up and they'll never be happier than when they are as children. Because they all view the world as misery and if they're happy that's actually like you're not being authentic to the world. So that's might as well be a crime to be happy. Yeah, so yeah, so I mean that's that's like this whole book in my opinion. It's just a world of misery. Pretty happy stuff. So so yeah, I think going off that there's something and I looked online about like this book too because I was trying to round out my thoughts and opinions and someone was saying how a big part of this was just showing how subjective reality is and that's kind of the philosophical side of this is like there's not one objective truth. It's all told from these different peoples these different characters perspectives and like with the backdrop of world war one and all this like depressing things going on. It sort of fits into that historical context and then you bring up a good point because like Hemingway wrote a lot and after World War one right in like. That's like The Lost Generation for Europeans or British. Right? Looks like fought in World War II and stuff, right? Yeah. It's not fought in the Spanish Civil War. Oh, yeah, but like, I think there was this overarching tone after World War One of like, oh my God, what did we just go through. Humanity is on the like was stretched pushed to the brink and how are we ever going to come back from that and it's perfectly understandable. Um. Yeah, I don't know where I'm going with this. But but I think that has to the gloomy factor of the writing which is again understandable. But I think what you had on it is also right that people's perspectives are so subjective that reality to one person is not reality to another and I think you're right that is has a lot to do in this book. Because like even James the youngest in the first part of the book, he's six years old and then she has talks of here like had there been an axe handy a poker or any weapon. That would have gashed a hole in his father's breast and killed him then there and then James would have seized it. So like even when he's 6 he's filled with anger towards his father and you know, his father may not be particularly a bad person overall. He's just not very loving and emotional two is six year old son. But that creates this animosity towards them that never goes away because in the third part of the book when they're sailing to the lighthouse, his son is fixated on steering the boat the sailboat because he knows if he slips up one little bit his dad's going to say something and he doesn't want to have to deal with his dad. Yeah. He's got issues. Yeah loads of issues. Yes, this quote kind of ties into what we were just talking about. She says how this is from mrs. Ramsey's perspective talking about her kids. Strife divisions difference of opinion prejudices twisted into the very fiber of being oh that they should begin so early. Mrs. Ramsey deplored. They were so critical, her children. They talk such nonsense. She just talks about how they were like criticizing. I think it was either James or someone else at the house and like inventing differences between them and just sort of yeah that kind of ties in the subjectivity thing. And yeah, mrs. Ramsey from her point of view. She. yeah just doesn't want our kids to grow up because in this quote here. Oh, but she never wanted James to grow day older or Cam either. These two she would have liked to keep forever just as they were. Demons of wickedness, angels of the light, never to see them grow up into long-legged monsters. It's because I feel like and then she goes on to say like. And so she went down and said to her husband, why must they grow up and lose it all never will they be so happy again? And he was angry why take such a gloomy view of life. He said it is not sensible. For it was on and she believed it to be true that with all his gloom and desperation. He was happier more hopeful on the whole than she was less exposed to human worries. Perhaps that was it. So mr. Ramsey was more concerned with like greater existential thoughts and he got angry when she didn't want her children to grow up and have to deal with adulthood. And so he seemed to be more happier thinking about these Grand existential thoughts than she was worrying about her kids losing their childlike naivete. Yeah. Honestly, it makes him sound kind of like an asshole not to be like, you know judgmental but I think to have eight kids and be a mother worried about them makes sense, but he it sounds like he kind of has like a fragile ego hmm went very much. So I'm talking about. What is it? So I think this is from his perspective. He says something like. The very stone one kicks with ones boot will outlast Shakespeare. His own little light would shine not very brightly for a year or two and would then be merged in some bigger light and that in bigger still. So he's having this like existential crisis and wondering about Legacy and meaning and it's like why not just be a better dad, you're eight. And that's what Legacy is what he says then. That was a good bit of work on the whole his eight children. They showed he did not damn the poor little Universe entirely. So like his contribution is just refer making them. Yes, that’s good. So is that Virginia Woolf like kind of taking a stab at shitty father? That's a good point. That could be because like where was the code? Here’s one quote: an unmarried woman has missed the best of life. And this is my my little note I added is I guess women authors can be misogynist. Yeah, but but you know, you know, I didn't really think about is she writing tongue-in-cheek there. Yeah. That's what it's possible right? You're right. I guess it is possible. It was well to do our research. Well our huge fan base can reach out to us. I mean we don't like yeah it just it just. Here's the quote. Mr. Ramsey's thinking this. Go on reading. You don't look sad now. He thought. And he wondered what she was reading and exaggerated her ignorance her simplicity for he liked to think that she was not clever not book learned at all. He wondered if she understood what she was reading. Probably not, he thought. See ya. He’s just an asshole. Yeah, so I guess I guess I didn't think of it that way I thought. I thought Virginia Woolf was writing what she believed males thought of women. And you're suggesting that perhaps she is showing she is displaying the absurdity of that men think women are so simple minded and kind of tongue-in-cheek. I think I think that's possible. I mean, I’d like to think I would like to think that it would like to think you're way better. But I don't know I mean. Even a go one more step like further down that is so he's this like abstract philosopher right kind of in his own head a lot. And then she talks a lot about how ordinary stuff is important and things like that. Right? So it's almost as if part of the message of this book is saying that we need to like appreciate the ordinary more and not as much these like Grand ideas that we overthink things like that. I had a quote that sort of goes off of that. Okay, she says one wanted she thought dipping her brush deliberately to be on a level with ordinary experience to feel simply that's a chair that's a table and yet at the same time. It's a miracle. It's an. So she's like brushing her hair or something and just thinking like appreciating these simple things. And some of the good writing I enjoyed was the third part of the book after mr. Mrs. Ramsey dies. Mr. Ramsey is kind of feeling a little a little extra self-pity and he goes to Lucy. Who's there painting she kind of wants to be left alone, but he just wants like recognition for his sorrow. They stood there isolated from the rest of the world his immense self-pity, his demand for sympathy, poured and spread itself in pools at their feet and all she did, miserable sinner that she was, was to draw her skirts a little closer around her ankles lest she should get wet. In complete silence, she stood there grasping her paintbrush. So he was being vulnerable. He one of this cell he wanted this acknowledgement for the sorrow. He was in for mrs. Ramsey's death and Lucy just didn't like I that visual like of the pool of sorrow, and she just hiking up her her her skirts a little closer around her ankles. It's did not get wet. It's like, you know, that's what my quote wasn't going off of is that yeah, there's dipping her brush her paint brush brush. Oh, yeah get some of these are out of context. Yeah. That's the one thing about the Kindle you highlight what you want. Yeah, and it all then you email it to yourself in this nice form. But you lose the context that you it was in. Yeah. Well, you can go back to the page or you can type a note along with it, right? Yeah, I gonna have to type more notes because yeah a lot of stuff. I like it when I'm reading it. But then when I go back and just read the quote itself out of context speaking about a context, I found a quote here. That just doesn't make any sense. Oh, here's a weird one. And all the time she was saying that the butter was not fresh one would be thinking of Greek temples and how Beauty had been with them there in that stuffy little room. Yeah some about butter. So like the previous sentence something about not fresh butter, and then she goes on timeout Greek temples. I don't know how to interpret. Yeah, I don't know either. Okay, I can read one more about the professor's sort of mental breakdown not break down but sort of existential crisis. He goes on to say: If Shakespeare had never existed, he asked what the world have differed much from what it is today because the progress of civilization depend upon Great Men is the lot of the average human being better now than in the time of the Pharaohs. Is a lot of the average human being however, he asked himself the Criterion by which we judge the measure of civilization possibly not. Yeah, like these great things by Shakespeare the pharaohs like is the average person better off than then I think so. Looking at this now probably I would hope so yeah, okay, but okay. So if Shakespeare hadn't existed, would the world be that much different? Mmm. I think he said a lot of influence on culture and stories and things like that. Oh, yeah as a general idea. Yeah, just but like then then, you know, there's that saying that if you put you know, what a bunch of monkeys on typewriters eventually they'll crank out Shakespeare. So like I don't think that means that anybody could do it, but does that means somebody else would then emerge from history as an a great influencer of of drama and comedy and plays and just social commentary through art? Yeah, because I think that's what Shakespeare did a lot. I think the bigger point is like what does it mean to be a great man? And what does it mean to society to like to be a great person and contribute and what effect does that have and how does that affect like the greater culture? And is he wondering is that the only way to have a meaningful life? He’s asking is the lot of the average human the Criterion by which we judge the measure of civilization. Maybe not. I mean he's just kind of going back and forth in his mind. It's just who knows but this was a good few pages I think of him just sort of like what is that called when you're stuck in your head like he's overanalyzing everything. Okay. Yeah. Anyway, you had a quote. Yeah. Um, I think this was Lily Briscoe painting again in the third part of the book. What is the meaning of life? That was all. A simple question. One that tended to close in on one with years. The great Revelation had never come the great Revelation perhaps never did come. Instead there were little daily miracles, illuminations, matches struck unexpectedly in the dark. Yeah. That was my favorite quote. Oh, was it really that? Yeah. Yeah. So I think this is. The complete inverse of what you said about? Mr. Ramsey. Mr. Ramsey's wondering about great works and great Deeds Done by humans to advance the lot of the average human. Where's this is just saying instead. They were little daily Miracles illuminations matches struck unexpectedly in the dark. It's the little things that we. That we will cherish through life that surprise us that illuminate us that yeah. Yeah. That's what I was saying about like the ordinary stuff. Remember she was right? No, I mean, I think yes, I think we're. yeah, we're on the same page that yeah, just you know, like like this books implies is that we have different perspectives, so our realities are slightly different based on you know, it's subject is subjective. But we are we roughly share the same ideas about the book. Yeah. Do you have any more quotes I was going to end on that one honestly. Was it really? Well, I mean that was my yeah, but you should do some more if you have some way. I might have only two more. I mean I did appreciate. II mean I guess I guess my favorite part of the book was Lily Briscoe painting in the third section and her thoughts about the meaning of life and death and mourning. Mrs. Ramsey. I felt like that was. for me what I that's what I when I connected the most was when Virginia Woolf was going on about her stream of Consciousness and her mindset. Because I didn't really connect with mr. Ramsey. I mean I felt like he was a little bit of a chauvinist egotistical. I mean self-centered guy, but I think that's kind of what she wrote him as. Right? Yeah. I think so. Yeah, I mean I didn't say I wasn't saying I connect with him either. It's. I think he has his characters just like more fleshed out I guess is what I wasn't sure. Yeah. All right. You got it. So yes, here's my last quote. This is Lily. Like I said my favorite part painting on the shore and the third part of the book. Oh the dead, she murmured, one pitied them, one brush them aside, one had even a little contempt for them. They are at our Mercy. Mrs. Ramsay had faded and gone, she thought. We can override her wishes, improve away her limited old-fashioned ideas, she receives further and further from us. I specially like the improve away her limited old-fashioned ideas because when someone dies and passes away we. We don't dwell on their faults, which I think is healthy. We don't want to when someone passes away we miss what do we miss? We missed what we liked about them what we loved about them. And I think that's the thing is like we kind of just gloss over, you know, the negative sides of people. I think one example is the founding fathers, you know people. They were great men very insightful and and full of courage and wisdom to found this country. But at the end of the day, they owned slaves, you know, so overall but I know there's 200 years since then but still, you know, we like to improve away their limited old-fashioned ideas. And that's what we do with people pass away. She's talking about mrs. Ramsey in that passage right? It's maybe the old-fashioned ideas is that clean is to that like matronly role now could be because Lily Briscoe you not to it started really or Lucy I think was the was it Lucy? No losing. Well regardless I've been calling her Lucy this whole time. Yeah. Okay. She I think mrs. Ramsay wanted her to like she's like trying to set her up with another character in the book some guy and she's like wouldn't take to him like she wasn't interested. That's just yeah, so maybe that's kind of the Lily Briscoe is the heroine of this book. That's an oversimplification. Yeah. I know if you're Virginia Woolf like feminist Heroes. That may be what you're saying is like you can choose Lily's route. And even though mrs. Ramsey was like a great mom. You don't have to like do that if that's not your right path or something. Exactly. Sorry. So, what did you write this book out of 5? Yeah. Why don't you go first because not a final is how but all right. I'm giving it a three. I'm giving it a 3 out of 5 because at the end of the day I do feel like it was well written. That's it. That's it as like because the. if anybody else wrote this book, or if it was it would just never be famous if it wasn't so well written. So yeah, so 3 out of 5 for me. Yeah, I would give her three too. Okay, because. I didn't it didn't really Captivate me. No, it didn't but that’s not the point. No, I was a borderline two I was I was thinking about two out of five and I'm like no, this is really well written there. Are there are there are more beautiful moments in here that I just not quoting now because there's just nothing to add. It's just it's just beautiful prose in some instances, you know, and. So I like there's plenty of spots I could highlight and just quote. You know, we're just being the best audience for this too. No I mean and that's fine. I mean, I think that's all point is you want to read stuff that you would normally read or get out your comfort zone and reading. Yeah. So the point is reality is subjective. Yeah. Our opinions are not Universal, but what is reality there? All right. So good pick Tim. I give you credit for thank you including diversity into our yeah, you got to learn. Yeah, I will soon so all right. So we both rated it 3 out of 5. 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